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On One Night at Asssscat, or What to Do With a Date Rape Monologue

He didn't tell her who he was when he called, she told him he wasn't the guy she wanted, he entered her room without permission, she told him to leave on at least four separate occasions, he 'fish hooks' her, it sounds like she just laid there and took whatever he gave her, she told him again to get out when he was finished. Then he's like "she texted my friend she doesn't do second rate BUT SHE DID HAW, HAW, HAW" this sounds like a woman having 'just get it over with' sex with some obviously creepy idiot who will not leave her hotel room. Which, is rape. Sorry, dudes. It's rape. I thought the hosts handled this situation in a great way given the setting of the story - a comedy show - by making jokes that reveal the darkness in this retelling, pointing out the audiences reactions to the monologue and supporting them as they boo, and calling the guy out on his creepy/disgusting behavior repeatedly while being funny. All that said - Louis C.K. has the market cornered on rape jokes done right so let's just let him have that, OK?

Posted on January 19, 2012 at 10:39 pm 0

On One Night at Asssscat, or What to Do With a Date Rape Monologue

@John Doe@twitter When you relent and have sex with someone you do not want to just because he won't leave you alone - you're a victim of rape. It is disgusting to me that women are expected to have 'pity' or 'go away' or 'get it over with' sex with men and that it's a running joke in our society. Unwanted physical contact - even contact that the victim herself forces herself into is rape. It's hard to come to terms with and it's hard to understand thanks to the lines we cross and the jokes that we make but it's true. If you don't want it, if you've squirmed away or tried to talk your way out of it but relent because your partner wants it it's rape. Period. I feel great sums of concern and pity for men who do not believe this and women who have been conditioned to believe that this kind of physical connection is an inherent part of their sexual experience because it shouldn't be. If I tell my partner I'm 'not into it' and can't get my vagina working the way it usually does and he softly kisses me and I say 'not right now' and but he synthetically lubes me up and I just give up and let him in - that's not healthy, balanced sex and I've been violated and he's violated me. I've been raped. No matter how quiet it is, no matter what someone feels about it - it's rape and women need to be allowed to feel that and empower themselves with that information for the sake of their bodies and their minds.

Posted on January 19, 2012 at 10:17 pm 0
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